Resources For Physicians, Nurse Practitioners, Therapists & Helping Professionals
When your service user keeps saying she’s fine, but you can see she’s not. When the labs come back normal, but the exhaustion doesn’t lift, when she describes the same relationship dynamic over and over, when she can’t answer the question, “What do you need?” because she genuinely doesn’t know anymore.
These frameworks grew from more than twenty-five years of clinical work with women. They are not diagnoses or treatment protocols. They offer practical language for exploring patterns that may sit beneath the surface of what service users bring into the room.
The resources here are designed to support your clinical judgment.
When Your Service User Says...
When Your Service User Says...
"I can't say no. I'm doing everything for everyone."
The Good Girl Contract™ explores the often-unspoken rules some women learn about approval, self-sacrifice, conflict, emotional caretaking, and achievement. It considers how early experiences, relationships, socialization, and broader expectations can shape these patterns.
When Your Service User Says...
"I keep ending up in the same kind of relationship."
The Pattern Loop™ helps explore repetitive responses and relationship dynamics influenced by prior learning, expectations, and reinforcement. It offers a way to notice what keeps repeating and where a different response may become possible.
When Your Service User Says...
"I feel like I've lost myself. I don't know who I am anymore."
The Self-Abandonment Trade™ explores what a woman may have learned to put aside, including her voice, needs, desires, connection to her body, or aspects of identity, in exchange for belonging, approval, safety, stability, or keeping the peace.
When Your Service User Says...
"I'm just so tired all the time."
She may be describing a pattern of over-responsibility, guilt, overdoing, resentment, and exhaustion. The Exhaustion Cycle™ offers one lens for exploring how what she carries, difficulty stepping back, and repeatedly pushing past her limits may be contributing to her experience.
Professional Tools
How To Use These Resources
These resources are designed to open conversations
offer a guide during a session
email a relevant resource afterward
add resources to a patient portal
suggest the Pattern Assessment for further reflection
refer for therapy when deeper exploration and support is appropriate
When To Refer For Therapy
Therapy may be helpful when these patterns are longstanding, affect relationships, well-being, or daily functioning, or when a patient is ready to understand them more deeply and experiment with change.
I provide virtual therapy for women across Ontario.
A Discovery Session is a stand-alone, paid 60-minute therapy appointment with no requirement to continue afterward, and is a great, low-risk way to start.
Social work services and Registered Social Workers may be covered by extended health benefits. Patients are encouraged to check their individual plan.
Practitioner Referral
Professionals can refer service users directly to our intake email if they have discussed the referral with their service user and the service user has consented to being contacted. I will reach out to them directly within 24 hours or 48 hours over a weekend.
Privacy note: My clinical records are maintained through a secure, PHIPA-compliant practice management system. This referral form and email should not be used to transmit detailed or sensitive clinical information. Please provide only the minimum information needed for me to follow up with the client. Additional information can be shared through an appropriate secure method if needed.
Clinical & Theoretical Foundations
The Insight Pattern Frameworks are original clinical and psychoeducational formulations. They are not new psychological theories, diagnoses, or independently validated treatment models.
My contribution is the development of practical frameworks and language that bring together recurring clinical observations with established and emerging research across psychology, psychotherapy, and the social sciences.
Good Girl Contract™
Feminist and relational perspectives, self-silencing, gender socialization, schema concepts and related research.
Pattern Loop™
Behavioural learning, reinforcement, schemas, attachment-related processes, habit and psychological flexibility.
Self-Abandonment Trade™
Self-silencing, agency and identity, values-based work, relational adaptation, social/contextual influences.
Exhaustion Cycle™
Burnout and recovery research, emotional and unpaid labour, role overload, overcommitment and contextual influences on women's well-being.
Research & Emerging Evidence
The frameworks are informed by established research across psychology, psychotherapy, social work, sociology, occupational health and women’s mental health. This research helps us understand many of the processes the frameworks bring together, while the frameworks themselves are original clinical and psychoeducational formulations.
Self-Silencing & Relational Self-Suppression
Gendered Expectations & Relational Patterns
Unpaid, Cognitive & Emotional Labour
Burnout, Exhaustion & Recovery
Habit, Reinforcement & Psychological Flexibility
About Susan Taylor, MSW, RSW
I am a Registered Social Worker and providing virtual therapy to women across Ontario. The Insight Pattern Frameworks grew from patterns I began noticing across more than twenty-five years of working with women in counselling and community settings.
I developed the frameworks to give women and the professionals supporting them accessible language for experiences that can otherwise be difficult to name. My work integrates evidence-informed social work and psychotherapy with relational, contextual, and feminist perspectives.
For professional and educational use. These resources are not diagnostic instruments and are not intended to replace individualized clinical assessment or treatment.
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